Orange is the New Black – Turning Family Ministry into More than a Fad.

Orange is in.  Everyone must have it in their wardrobe, refer to it regularly, and show it off whenever possible.  Nowhere is this more true, than in the church.

The concept of Think Orange, a book written by Reggie Joiner, states the influence of the church and family working together makes a greater impact than those same two influences can have individually.  This ministry philosophy seeks to unite family and church to have a stronger spiritual impact on children and adolescents.

Orange is the topic of many sermons, and many are attending the conferences.  Many churches are changing the titles of their pastors (to include the word family), but…

does it go any deeper?

I fear that many churches have added an orange outfit to their closet, just in case they need it.  They have bought the book, know the bullet points, and spout off the right answers when the topic is discussed.  However, Reggie writes, “Family ministry should not be another program you add to your list of programs.  It should be the filter you use to create and evaluate what you do to influence children and teenagers.”  (Think Orange, 83)

We have to move orange beyond fad, and into practice.

In order to accomplish this…

As a youthworker, I know you are overwhelmed.  It is hard to evaluate when you have several families in crisis and another program to prepare for in just a few hours.  However, a time of reflection and evaluation is always worth the effort.

If you are interested in an overhaul, and don’t know where to begin, contact David at gdavid@earesources.org.

5 Easy (Fairly Easy) Changes for Churches trying to welcome Emerging Adults!

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If you are a community that it looking to make some changes to attract emerging adults, here are a few ways that you can start without shifting your beliefs, or discussing it at a board meeting.

1.  Design a website that welcomes them.

Your website will be the first encounter that most Emerging Adults will have with your church.  As you look at your website, what does your church say, or what does it not say about emerging adults?  Your website’s appeal is not based on being “hip” or “trendy”, but you need to understand what questions they will be asking.  If you don’t know where to begin, drop me a note, and I will be glad to give you some thoughts.  If Millennials are not visiting your church, then maybe your website provides plenty of reasons to stay away.

2.  Open Avenues to SERVICE.

When an emerging adult enters your community, can they sense that emerging adults have opportunities to serve and lead?  Or does your church have invisible signs saying, “Young Need Not Apply.”  Seek to equip people of all ages regularly serving as greeters, ushers, communion servers, and speakers.

3.  Refuse to speak negatively about adolescents or emerging adults.

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There is a desperate need within our world to change the metanarrative of human development.  Within the church, many negative statements are made about adolescents and emerging adults.  Are jokes made about adolescents?  Are generations unfairly characterized such as being called techy (addicted to their phones), immature, or rebellious?  Age-based humor should not be used.

 4.  Respond immediately and personally to requests for information.

Emerging adults are always in the midst of transition.  They do not want to wait two months to serve or attend the next visitor’s meal or class.  If they visited, invite them to coffee to discuss how they can further connect with your community.  Assign this position to someone who is relationally-driven, and understands the needs of emerging adults.

5.  Develop a unified voice on your current philosophy for emerging adults.

As a team, you must discus what happens once an emerging adult visits?  If you don’t have a philosophy, here are some questions to get going (Click Here!).

Maybe you have covered these first steps, and haven’t seen any change. If you want me to help you or your team discover a philosophy of ministry that works for your community, contact me at gdavid@earesources.

 

Your Church is Not Alone…

churchIf your high school student are disappearing after graduation…

If having “more youth” means having more babies…

If your congregation is greying…

If you are still confused by what a Millennial is, let alone how it matters to your church…

If you pray, and pray, and pray, and see no change …

If the young know what is wrong with your church…

If the old know what is wrong with your church…

If these two sides cannot agree on anything…

If your parents of emerging adults are suffering in shame over their kids…

If your emerging adults are suffering in shame over themselves…

If your parents of high school students are scared of what lies ahead…

If you have a passion to see the generations united…

If you no longer want to fear what lies ahead…

If you want to make a difference…

 

You are not alone, but normal.  Welcome to normal.  We can help.

EA Resources is dedicated to helping churches understand the world of Emerging Adults.  We hold seminars on parenting emerging adults, preparing adolescents for emerging adulthood, and helping churches understand Millennials.  If we can help your community, please contact Dr. G. David Boyd at gdavid@earesources.org.

10 Ways Millennials Are Creating the Future of Work (and the Church)

pew and hymnalI recently read this article by Dan Schwabel.  He is the founder of Millennial Branding, a Gen-Y research and management consulting firm.  Dan’s research and predictions about the Millennials are changing the workplace can also be applied to the church.  Using his predictions, here are some ways that Millennials will change the church in the future.

  1.  Millennials will force churches to be transparent. Authenticity is a high value for Millennials.  There is a need for honesty in all activities.  If a church asks for money, then describe the needs.  If someone leaves the staff or community, then tell them the reasons why.  Attempts to cover-up the truth display inauthenticity, and will cause Millennials to flee.
  2. Millennials will choose meaningful work above everything else. Allow Millennials to do meaningful work.  They don’t want to be relegated to tasks because they are young.   Find out what they love to do, and remove the roadblocks.  Don’t make them fit into your pre-planned program.  Listen to who they are before you ask them to volunteer.
  3. Millennials will build a collaborative church. I think that this has ramifications for how a church does small groups.  Some groups connect better through collaboration, and sharing a common project.  Churches need to move beyond small groups simply doing “Bible Study.”
  4. Millennials will make worshipping from home the norm.  Millennials will continue to attend church, but they will also want to watch on-line when they are not available.  Many millennials have jobs that force them to work weekends; therefore a church that wants to appeal to this demographic must have a variety of attendance options, including on-line services.
  5. Millennials will recruit based on results over degrees.  They have been told since they entered education that they had to have a degree.  They have seen the positive and negatives of education, and realize that often education is just a useless gate that keeps capable people from work and leadership.  Millennials will look beyond the degree.
  6. Millennials will change the meaning of “face-time”.  Virtual church was once mocked by the Christian community as being unrealistic, and not real church.  Innovations in technology have made it a reality.  Although I believe in the importance of human-interaction,  technology is changing how this is accomplished.
  7. Millennials will encourage generosity and community support.  A church that wants to engage EA’s will go to the community rather than ask the community to come to them.  Emerging adults are very generous when it comes to the greater community.  They are not usually interested in supporting a larger church staff or programming.
  8. Millennials will eliminate the annual performance review.   Churches don’t do annual reviews,  but Millennials want their voice to be heard in the direction of the church.  A church will attract EA’s when they ask them questions and respond to their answers.  
  9. Millennials will turn work into a game instead of a chore.  The Gaming Industry is huge.  Instead of mocking gamers as immature men and women, a church should engage gamers by building community around them.  The church has embraced men’s sports activities for years, so why do churches frown upon one leisure activity, and yet spend money on the other?
  10. Millennials will level corporate hierarchies.  Already many churches are dropping the title “Senior” Pastor, and instead turning to “Lead” Pastor.  However, the changes have yet to begin.  Hierarchies will disappear within the church (especially those dominated by rich, male babyboomers).   This will only be done by conscious deliberate action.  

I welcome the changes – as part of God’s refining process to the Bride of Christ, and the furtherance of His Kingdom.