Millennials on the Rise in the Twin Cities

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The Star Tribune recently released an article that discussed how Millennials are flocking to big cities.

“The population of young adults in Hennepin County rose nearly 25 percent during the past seven years, one of the biggest gains in the nation, according to RealtyTrac, a national real estate research firm.”

In spite of rising rental prices, Millennials are moving there because of low unemployment, and moderate cost of living.

“Craig Helmstetter, senior research manager for Wilder/Minnesota Compass, said that because people in this age group are making big life decisions, including marriage and homeownership, much later than baby boomers did, it will be particularly important for employers and policymakers to pay close attention.”

Change is coming, and it is important for institutions to be prepared – including the Church.

Is your church prepared to reach and minister to Millennials?

David Boyd 1 (1)Dr. G. David Boyd is the Founder and Managing Director of EA Resources, a non-profit designed to encourage and equip Emerging Adults and their parents.  If he can help your business, church, or institution prepare to meet the needs of Millennials, contact him at gdavid@earesources.org.

6 Reasons Decision-Making Is More Difficult for Emerging Adults

I sometimes struggle with making decisions.  I can stare at a menu for several minutes while debating between the McChicken or the McDouble.  I use my time in the checkout lane debating whether or not I need a king-size candy bar.

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While we all sometimes struggle with making decisions, the endless opportunities and never-ending stream of decisions facing emerging adults can be overwhelming.  Emerging adults (roughly 18-28) face many important decisions including:  personal identity, vocation, education, relationships, and family.  Before we call emerging adults wishy-washy, selfish unicorns (or some other nonsensical term pulled from the internet), here are few reasons why making decisions has become so difficult.

1.  Lack of Moral Certainty – Is it right or wrong?

Firm moral boundaries once helped people make decisions because certain actions were deemed immoral either by their religious beliefs, or by their family or community.  In today’s world, many emerging adults believe the morality of most actions to be uncertain; therefore, they cannot ask, “Is this right or wrong?”  Emerging adults are only left with the question, “Is this right or wrong for me?”   which just leads them to a new decisions.  As a church, we need to restore hope to emerging adults that they can find moral certainty for their decisions.

2.  Limitless Reach – Is it even possible?

In today’s world of parenting, a child should never be discouraged from following their dreams – no matter how unlikely.  Many children grow up with dreams of being the President, an astronaut, or professional basketball player.  This is the generation to whom Dr. Seuss wrote, “Oh the places you will go.”  Millennials and their parents believe in their own boundless potential, so now even the tone-deaf are trying out to be the next American Idol.

3.  Lack of Institutional Support – Where can I get good advice?

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Emerging adulthood is a time when social structures including churches, family, and schools back away, and the individual is often left alone to figure out the myriad of decisions they face.  Wuthnow says, “the major decisions a person has to make about marriage, child rearing, and work happen after these support systems have ceased to experience stress and confusion, worry that they are not yet capable of behaving like adults, delay settling down, and often make bad decisions about jobs and money.” (Wuthnow, After the Baby Boomers)

Social institutions often step away during the EA years, and I believe that the church is the most guilty of this crime.  Society’s message that adulthood is independence has been heard, and so emerging adults have learned not to ask for help.  Most churches have strong support for children, adolescents, and older adulthood while emerging adults are a zone that no one is willing is to claim, and few are willing to enter.  (If your community is looking for how to start supporting Emerging Adults, click here!)

 4.  Lack of Responsibility – Will this decision negatively affect my other responsibilities?

Robbins says, “The prevalent belief is that twenty-somethings have it relatively easy because they do not have as many responsibilities as older individuals.  But it is precisely this reduced responsibility that renders the vast array of decisions more difficult to make.”  (Quarterlife Crisis)  When an individual becomes responsible for a spouse and children, he or she must consider how their decisions will affect their family.  For example, a young man may choose to move across the country tomorrow to go look for work by himself, but if he has a wife and child, such a decision seems unlikely.  As emerging adults delay marriage and parenting (for more click here), their lack of current responsibility leaves their options open and does not aid in the decision-making process.

5.  Lack of Experience – How did I make a decision like this before?

Many emerging adults lack experience at making decisions that count.  Afraid that their children will fail, many parents set close boundaries, and do not allow them to make decisions.  Making important decisions during adolescence is foundation for becoming autonomous (What is autonomy?).  Parents and institutions must allow adolescents and emerging adults to make even bad decisions, and allowing them to learn and grow through the process.

6.  Lack of Absolute Truth – What will happen if I do action A?

Many emerging adults are looking for certainty in a world that doesn’t promise it.  Doing A + B will not always produce results C.  Emerging adults understand their limited perspective, and that even the best decision, could bring forth unexpected results.  A lack of certainty causes emerging adults to delay or refuse to make a decision.

We must show emerging adults that their lives do not depend on one decision and its outcome, but that God works through each decision of our lives – good and bad.   As Christians, our certainty does not come from the outcome, but from the “God-of-all-Outcomes.”

Parents, emerging adults, and the Church must ask how we can come alongside young adults as they make decisions.

What have you done in order to equip your child, friend, or student to make decisions?

david in hat - blackDr. G. David Boyd is the Founder and Managing Director of EA Resources, a non-profit designed to equip parents and churches to minister to Emerging Adults.  If you would like David to help your community understand the needs of Emerging Adults, contact him at gdavid@earesources.org.

Your Black Friday Prayer

shoppingI have experienced Black Friday.  It began way before any human should be awake.  It began in a line that was so long that it wrapped around two sides of the store.  I wish that I could say that it got better.

I picked up the few items that I was buying, and then headed towards another extremely long line.  Two young women were in line right behind me.  One of them had a cart with various odds and ends, while the other was attempting to move a television box that was bigger than she was.  I couldn’t help but listen to their conversation.

“This television is such a great deal.”

“Yes, it is.”

Silence.

“What are you going to do with it?”

“I don’t know.”

“You already have one.”  Silence.    “You don’t have anywhere to put it.”

“But it is such a good deal.”

The conversation ended, but the point was so clear.  I actually hung around just to see what would happen.  In the end, the television won, and humanity lost another round to American consumerism.  As Black Friday approaches, many of you will brave the long lines, and mass chaos.  Here is a simple prayer that can help you come out on top.

 

Black Friday PrayerDear Lord,

You are Lord of all that I have – including my money.  Today, my shopping is under your control.  Help me to use discernment while using my money.  Help me to spend only what I have, that I might be free from the bondage of debt.  May I remember that your call to generosity extends beyond my family, but to the “least of these.”  May your Spirit guide me, and not greed.  May I not believe the lie that possessions will bring me or my family happiness.  May I not attempt to earn the love of others through gifts.

May my day be filled with your love, your joy, and your peace.

Always and forever yours,

 

 

 

Should young children be in church?

Worship with kidsOver the weekend, I went to church with my family.  A family sat behind us with a young child who definitely didn’t understand what it meant to sit and listen quietly.  While I found it occassionally distracting, my son just found it appalling.  He was upset that the young child kept kicking his chair and that the family did nothing about it.

After the service, I encouraged him to filled with grace for others because we often do not know what is going on within the lives of those we sit near.  I also tried to encourage him that Jesus took time to be with children, and that they have an important role in the body of Christ.

Often young children are not welcomed into our corporate worship gatherings.  As a parent of a toddler, people often do not want to sit near you, and give you shunning looks.  The only place worst is when you are walking them up an airplane aisle.

Welcome children into our community takes grace and an understanding of their importance to the body of Christ.  I found this picture online, and wanted to share it.

 

The No. 1 Reason Teens Keeps the Faith as Young Adults

sessums-mother-daughter-679867-h[1]This article was just released by the Huffington Post, and I thought that it would be an encouragement for parents of children, teens, or emerging adults.

Click here for the ARTICLE.

The article is based on research by Christian Smith and the National Study for Youth and Religion.  My favorite quote in the article by Christian Smith,   “No other conceivable causal influence … comes remotely close to matching the influence of parents on the religious faith and practices of youth.  Parents just dominate.” 

So go read the article, and then go DOMINATE your kids by speaking, teaching, and living your faith within your home and your relationships with them.  

Dr. G. David Boyd is the Founder and Managing Director of EA Resources.  If he can encourage the parents in your community, please contact him at gdavid@earesources.org.

 

 

 

Why the “Teen Section” in your church is NOT a sign of church health, but of sickness.

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Several years ago, I interviewed for a position in Ohio.  Whenever talking about their church’s vitality, they would always reference the “Teen Section” during worship services.  For those who have not heard the term, “Teen Section” is an area of the auditorium where all the adolescents sit together each week during services.  The search committee would discuss how large the section was.  They would discuss how faithful the section was.  They would discuss how active the section was during worship.

This was not the first time that I had heard a teen section is a sign of a healthy church, and I doubt that it will be the last.  During the interview, I held my tongue, but here is what I wanted to say:

Five Reasons Why Your “Teen Section” promotes sickness within your community.

1.  It trains adolescents to seek out and require “peer-driven” experiences.

Adolescents who are limited to a “Teen Section” experience of Christianity are going to struggle as they phase out of age-segregated programming.  I believe that one reason why so many emerging adults leave the church is because they graduated from youth group, and gave up trying to find the “post-teen” section.

2.  It teaches our community that teenagers are not a part of normal human society, but are a subset with strange interests, wild behaviors, and raging hormones.

It is good for adolescents to have their own space.  Due to their raging hormones and rebellious behavior, they are “other,” meaning not like us, and barely human.  It promotes low expectations among teenagers, and continues the myth that rebellion is a natural part of the adolescence experience.

3.  It separates parents from their children during corporate worship.

Worship with kidsWorship services are a time when my children can see what parents value, what parents believe, and what parents feel about faith.  Research by Sticky Faith reveals that only 12% percent of youth have a regular dialogue with their mom on faith or life issues.  This same research shows that only 5% have regular faith or life conversations with their dad.  (Sticky Faith, 71)  By establishing and promoting a “teen section,” we have ceased to support the spiritual development that happens within the familial context.

4.  It isolates adolescents from the body of Christ, leaving the community weak and sickly.

It is not simply that Emerging Adults need us, but the church must realize that we need them.  I have never heard someone say, “Wow, our church is so healthy.  You should see our retirement section! Their section is so vibrant and they love being with each other.”  Seriously, think about it.  We would not say it about other parts of the body of Christ; therefore, we should not say it about adolescents.  The body of Christ is at peak strength when we do not see another’s faults, money, race, status, or age, but serve hand in hand without discrimination. 

5.  It perpetuates the myth that “peer-driven” relationships and age-segregated programming are crucial to spiritual development.

While I do desire that my children develop friendships with peers, I also want them to have an entire network of people at various life stages who will encourage them in their faith.  While popular in our society, age-segregation is not Biblical or healthy.  By not speaking up for the unity of the body of Christ, we continue to promote segregation and ageism within the church.

As we consider the “teen-section,” each church must ask what values, ideals, and practices should be developed within its community.

As Christians, we often promote the “Teen Section” as a sign of life because we as the church feel beaten up in this life.  The world is winning the war for our kids.  We are losing.  Pointing out the “Teen Section” gives us hope for the future of the church, and makes us feel better.

We must remember it is His church, and the gates of hell will not prevail against it.

Let us work for new signs of life in our communities.  Lives being changed.  Hope being found.  Acceptance being granted.  Care being received.  Love being spread.  The Kingdom being restored.

 

David Boyd 1 (1)Dr. G. David Boyd is the Founder and Managing Director of EA Resources.  You can follow his publications on Twitter at  @G_David_Boyd as he writes on Manhood, Emerging Adults, Faith, and the church.  He is the proud father of three children – Josiah, Andrew, and Tobi.

 

Resources Referenced:

Sticky Faith by Kara Powell and Chap Clark

 

The Myth of the Four-Year College Degree

I recently came across this article, and wanted to share it with my readers.

According to the Department of Education, fewer than 40% of students who enter college each year graduate within four years, while almost 60% of students graduate in six years. At public schools, less than a third of students graduate on time. (Time Magazine)

college piggy bank

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There are many reasons why it takes students longer to get through college.  Here are just a few:

  • Trouble getting into a specific program.
  • Finances
  • Trouble getting into prerequisite classes.
  • Illness of the student or family member.
  • Lack of Motivation to leave.
  • Change their major (one or more times).
  • Unable to determine a course of study.

The longer it takes to get a degree usually affects the amount of expenses that a student will accrue, and delays their entry into the workforce.

However as Christians, it is important to remember that each person’s journey is unique and directed by our loving God.  So whether you are a parent or emerging adult, don’t allow the four-year myth to discourage you in your journey.

Take each step by faith.  

David Boyd 1 (1)Dr. G. David Boyd is the Founder and Director of EA Resources.  He has a passion to encourage emerging adults and their parents.  If you are interested in having him speak to your community, email him at gdavid@earesources.org.

 

 

College Affordability – Back in my day, I paid for college by working hard

“Back in my day, I paid for my college by working hard all summer.”

It is hard for most students to image a time where you could cover your tuition expenses by working a summer job.  When I was going through school in the mid-nineties, I remember working each summer just hoping that I would make enough money to cover my school supplies, books, and spending money to get me through the year.

This chart shows us:

1.  The minimum wage has not kept up with the inflation rate of education.  Most students work entry-level jobs during the summer that make minimum wage.  Here is a chart that displays the percentage of inflation just from recent years (2003-2013, Source)

(Bureau of Labor Statistics)

2. We need to guide emerging adults to set goals for your summer employment that are reachable, concrete, and encouraging.  For example, “My goal for this year is to cover my books, and spending money for the year.”  The gap between their wages and debt demotivates them to get a summer job.  When you know that you are not going to make enough to make a difference in your fall loan balance, it can be discouraging.

3.  Provides an understanding of the financial obstacles that cause emerging adults to drop out of college.  While more people are attending college each year, more are not able to finish – often due to financial reasons.  The inflation rate of education is only one of the financial difficulties that emerging adults face after they leave high school.  I believe that it is essential for the church to understand the obstacles they face if we are to make them feel welcome in our churches.
David Boyd 1 (1) Dr. G. David Boyd is the Founder and Managing Director of EA Resources, who after writing this blog entry just texted a thank you note to his father for helping him make it through college.

McDonalds faces ‘Millennial’ Problem

I am a pretty big fan of McDonalds.  I was actually there early this morning.  Sitting at a hightop table working on my computer while sipping my large sweet tea and making good use of their free wifi.

So I am sad to hear the news that McDonalds sales are slumping due to the majority of Millennials who prefer other restaurants (however, I won’t be losing any sleep over it).  Here is the article.  McDonalds must make changes and shift with the changing culture if it wants to stay at the top of the industry.

While it is not important to me whether or not Millennials are going to McDonalds, it does bother me to know that so many emerging adults are leaving the Church behind.  I believe that a spiritual community is foundation for a follower of Christ.

This week, I am consulting with a church in Austin, MN.  This church has a desire to reach the Millennials in their town, and I look forward to how God is going to speak to us.

If your church is interested in reaching the Millennials in your community but doesn’t know where to begin, please let me know.  I would love the opportunity to come alongside your group as we seek to reach a new generation.

david in hat - blackDr. G. David Boyd is the Founder and Managing Director of EA Resources.  If you are interested in having him speak to your community about Millennals, and how your church can build a ministry to emerging adults, you can contact him at gdavid@earesources.org.