I found this image on the web, and wanted to share it with my readers. Other than being an Extreme Marvel Fan, I love how this comic defines the importance of becoming autonomous.
1. Can I tell someone “no” without worrying whether or not they still like me?
2. Do I have a clear understanding of who I am, and what I like (personal identity) which is distinct from those around me?
3. Can I make decisions without asking everyone around me?
4. Am I afraid to make decisions because I fear my decision will leave me alone or isolated from others?
5. Do I seek friends who look, act, and sound exactly like me?
6. Do I always wait to see what everyone else is doing before making a decision or expressing an opinion?
7. Do I have trouble making decisions about what I like or want to do?
8. Can I tell someone my opinion without stress?
9. Am I able to withstand peer pressure?
10. Do I enjoy diversity, or does it make me uncomfortable?
Establishing your personal autonomy is crucial for your development into adulthood.
I wish that my journey into autonomy would have also granted me access into the X-men. I guess the good news is that I never have to wear a spandex suit.
Dr. G. David Boyd is the Founder and Managing Director of EA Resources, a non-profit designed to encourage emerging adults and their parents.